Spiritual Readings & Poems
for Families and Survivors of MMIWG


I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one.
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun;
Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.

~ Helen Lowrie Marshall

The pain that you feel is valid…
You are allowed to feel that pain…
You are allowed to process it in your way…
It doesn’t make you broken…
It actually makes you completely whole.

~ Ruth Pirie

Three Stages of Grief

The Torment

Sorrow swallowed me into the cruel black sea,
The icy cold water washed over me,
Memories spin around in my mind,
Causing dark lucid dreams of every kind.
Grief and misery played their part,
Leaving behind a broken heart.

The Healing

Slowly the water ebbed away,
The blackness mellowed to a shade of grey,
Time as the healer showed the way,
Helping me to cope day by day,
Fear subsiding, confidence reigns,
Ready to face the world again.

The Future

The waters now are calm and clear,
My life again is full of cheer,
Smiles return and with them light,
The grey is replaced by colours so bright,
Though life was cruel, when it took you away,
I look to the future as a brand new day.

~ Bridgid Patrick

“May the stars carry your sadness away, May the flowers fill your heart with beauty, May hope forever wipe away your tears, And, above all, May silence make you strong.”

~ Chief Dan George

Love Shines Through

“Like a shadow in the moonlight
Like the whisper of the seas
Like the echoes of a melody

Just beyond our reach
In the shadow of our sorrow
Past the whisper of goodbye

Love shines through eternity
A heartbeat from our eye”


When I die
Give what’s left of me away
To children
And old men that wait to die.

And if you need to cry,
Cry for your brother
Walking the street beside you.
And when you need me,
Put your arms
Around anyone
And give them
What you need to give to me.

I want to leave you something,
Something better
Than words
Or sounds.

Look for me
In the people I’ve known
Or loved,
And if you cannot give me away,
At least let me live on in your eyes
And not your mind.

You can love me most
By letting
Hands touch hands,
By letting bodies touch bodies,
And by letting go
Of children
That need to be free.

Love doesn’t die,
People do.
So, when all that’s left of me
Is love,
Give me away.

~ Merrit Malloy

The Star

A light went out on Earth for me
The day we said goodbye
And on that day a star was born,

The brightest in the sky
Reaching through the darkness
With its rays of purest white

Lighting up the Heavens
As it once lit up my life
With beams of love to heal

The broken heart you left behind
Where always in my memory
Your lovely star will shine

If I Should Die

If I should die and leave you here awhile,
Be not like others, sore undone, who keep
Long vigils by the silent dust, and weep.
For my sake – turn again to life and smile,
Nerving thy heart and trembling hand to do
Something to comfort other hearts than thine.
Complete those dear unfinished tasks of mine
And I, perchance, may therein comfort you.

~ A. Price Hughes

I Give You This One Thought

I give you this one thought to keep
I am with you still – I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not think of me as gone –
I am with you still – in each new dawn.


Do not stand
By my grave, and weep.
I am not there,
I do not sleep.
I am the thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints in snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle, autumn rain.
As you awake with morning’s hush,
I am the swift, up-flinging rush.
Of quiet birds in circling flight,
I am the day transcending night.
Do not stand
By my grave, and cry.
I am not there,
I did not die.

~ Clare Harner

“A million times I’ve needed you
A million times I’ve cried
If love alone could have saved you
You never would have died.”

~ Author Unknown


The pine that stands upon the wooded mountain
Gains not in stature in a single day;
The noble river springs not from one fountain,
But gathers up its strength along its way.

The aloe hears for years the autumn’s dirges,
Before it shows its blossoms to the skies;
The coral reef, that breaks the ocean’s surges,
Through centuries of growth alone can rise.

Thus, through her works, Dame Nature offers ever
For our acceptance one persistent thought:
’Tis but by patient, sturdy, brave endeavor,
The greatest, best, and grandest things are wrought.

~ Unknown

May Time Soften Your Pain

In times of darkness, love sees…
In times of silence, love hears…
In times of doubt, love hopes…
In times of sorrow, love heals…
And in all times, love remembers.
May time soften the pain
Until all that remains
Is the warmth of the memories
And the love.

~ Author Unknown